For a very long time I felt I was doomed to live a life full of avoidance, avoiding people due to the fear of a long conversation that would trigger panicky bodily sensations, avoiding crowded or confined places because of a fear of intense dizziness and a visit to the emergency room, and avoidance of going for walks in public due to the feelings of depersonalization and derealization. As I look back it feels as if that was a different lifetime ago, and it saddens me that others are living the way I used to live without the correct guidance from doctors, friends and loved ones, but all that changes now…
My name is Dennis Simsek and for 6 years during my mid 20’s to early 30’s I was overwhelmed with fear. I lost great relationships with people due to my increasing anxiety levels during social interactions and my fears of being judged wrongly by people, I went completely broke and in debt due to the limited time I could put into my career as a professional tennis player and teaching pro. During that time I also found out I had a child on the way during one of my overwhelming panic attacks that felt more like a heart attack coming on that led me to the hospital bed (very common part of my life back then), that again should have been an incredible moment in my life but the timing couldn’t be worse, and this would just add to the “what if” questions I had about being the father I knew I had to be.
I had exactly 36 different pills, powders, and herbs in my cabinet not to mention the thousands of dollars I spent on miracle cures online trying to find a solution, but none of them worked even though I put great effort into all of them. I was only moments from taking my life one night sitting in my vehicle completely intoxicated, alcohol was a mini vacation for me from the effects of my mental and physical exhaustion, thankfully I didn’t follow through with my plan to end it all…but there was no sign of change in the near future, and I continued to try and look for something external that could quickly change my state around, and give me my calm and grateful life back that was now a distant memory. Thankfully I was able to get to the point of “no return,” I made a decision that would turn everything around and started to investigate reasons for why things weren’t changing in my life, and what needed to be done differently.
I took a new approach and the action followed. Immediately I was able to apply what I learned to every aspect of my life, and the rewards followed quickly. I followed a step by step fear desensitization plan that I’ve outlined in the end the anxiety program that enabled me to naturally turn off my anxiety and panic attack ‘switches.’ Also a ‘Systematic’ process which completely desensitized me to my phobias at the time which were elevators, driving even short distances, Agoraphobia (trapping myself at home) and even flying. Because of these rapid positive changes in my life I was able to reach my highest tennis ranking as a professional tennis player, because I no longer played the sport I loved so much with tremendous fear, and on a more important note I’m now the friend, partner, and father I’ve always dreamed of being. My life goal is to help you overcome your own anxiety struggles naturally. If you have any questions on the end the anxiety program, or would just like to share your story please don’t hesitate to contact me or share your comments below.
The Anxiety Guy, Dennis Simsek
Experienced CBT and NLP practitioner, and creator of the End The Anxiety audio program