You Are Stuck With An Anxiety Disorder For The Rest Of Your Life!

therapists and anxiety

Can you believe this is what I was told by my therapist in just the 3rd session together?

I may have just got one of the ‘bad batches’ of therapist during the time I was dealing with anxiety (and I truly hope so for the sake of the 6.8 million American adults), but deep down I believed that the continuous heart palpitations, dizziness, and lump in the throat symptoms of anxiety would some day be gone and I could live a ‘normal’ life again.

Digging Deep

When I started to dig deep (I mean real deep) into what brought my generalized anxiety disorder on and what kept it going for so long, I found a very important false belief that was preventing me from stopping my irrational fears. This false belief was deep rooted and was set on auto pilot as it controlled the way I communicated with people as well as the actions I took in my life. This was a huge find in my books and the belief was that…

This Is A Personal Problem

“This is the way I am, and this is a character flaw that I have to live with”… is this you? Do you believe that this is incurable, and the best you can do is cope with the symptoms of anxiety for good? The quote “the grass is always greener on the other side” is actually true in this situation. Why is it true? Because being caught up in symptoms of anxiety even for a short while can make you think that this is your permanent reality when it’s not, there’s a whole new unknown world out there and it begins with changing this belief! Simply put, if you don’t think you can change… you won’t, so drop the external stuff you purchased that says it cures your anxiety because they are as useful as heading towards a carwash on a snowy day!

No Problem Is Permanent

The day I was walking on to the tennis court about to play in another tennis tournament, and felt ONLY butterflies in my stomach was the day I knew I had overcome my GAD and with it my panic attacks. After 9 months of working on myself to recover how did I know? Because fear in small doses is a good thing, which was signified by just the butterflies I was experiencing and nothing more. It was at that moment that I knew The unfortunate part about having generalized anxiety disorder and that is that we can’t choose WHEN it may end, but we can continue to grow in confidence that will fuel our ability to deal with whatever may be causing our generalized anxiety disorder.

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4 comments on “You Are Stuck With An Anxiety Disorder For The Rest Of Your Life!

  1. I rather feel a bit like you are being a bit misleading here with your word choices.
    I’m sure that’s not intentional, but I’d like to illustrate what I mean by that.

    What you described isn’t an “end” to your disorder, what it is, is managing it. (Managing it well from the sounds of it, and that’s great!)

    I am my own example: I manage my OCD, I have other things which aren’t under control ATM, but my OCD is.

    When I was 13, I was constantly going through thought obsessions, rituals that only I could see/hear in my head, and showering probably at least 6-8 times a day. I went into treatment and within a year I had gotten the worst of my OCD under control, I learned DBT and I managed it, any time I found myself in an obsessive pattern, I pushed away from it. Within 3 years or so I had stopped all the OCD behaviours I could identify, and have been managing it ever since.
    I have had my OCD under control for coming up on a decade now.

    The thing is, it’s not gone. It hasn’t ‘ended’.
    It will never be gone, and there isn’t an ‘end’ to my *having* OCD.
    What there is, is a point at which we start managing it.

    If I were to think it’s gone or ended, then what if I didn’t look for new patterns? If I am not vigilant enough to keep track and use the skills I learned to manage it, they could be just as disruptive to my life as they were for me at 13 yet again. No, I have seen other patterns come up over the years and I have had to go through the cycle and stop it before it gets out of control.
    It does get easier with time, but it doesn’t “end”.

    Perhaps you could just better explain that you mean having to struggle with the symptoms all the time ends, because that much is true. When you have things managed, it doesn’t have to be a constant daily struggle any more, then it’s more like upkeep.

    • Thanks for sharing your story but I have a few comments on your comment:

      Our complex brains produces plenty of rational as well as irrational thoughts, when we can learn to think rationally, than an obsession eventually loses its irrational power over us. This can potentially lead to ending not managing OCD. Allowing those irrational thoughts to become an obsession leads to over analyzing. But the key here is to continue to resist the need to behave compulsively this way a person can start limiting and eventually overcoming the effects of OCD.

      • Thanks for your response! I’m sorry I have a few more thoughts…

        I wonder if we are not using terms differently? Because when you say end, I read that as being “gone”, like as in “cured” or some such, which isn’t really possible, it’s always a part of those people who have it, but perhaps that is not what you mean by it.

        Oh yes, it is without a doubt that learning the skills of critical thinking, and logical observation (both of ones self and of the world around us) are very helpful, especially when dealing with OCD.
        Learning those skills was actually essential to me getting mine under control in fact. 🙂

        Though I would like to point out, many people who have OCD are aware when their obsessions are irrational (note this does not always stop them) actually this knowledge of rituals not being rational was proposed a possible diagnostic criteria for having OCD in the 90’s. (It fell out of favour because it’s simply not true for all people who suffer OCD – I don’t know the percentage that do or don’t though)
        All the people in my OCD group for treatment knew their obsessions weren’t rational, they knew that there was no reason to follow them. Half of them still walked out of there unable to conquer even one of their obsessions in the year of the treatment. (Though I hope that they were all able to eventually)
        Knowing is only half the battle sadly — But with some work, anxieties can definitely be gotten under control. 😀

      • Thanks again. You heard right actually, when I mentioned cured I did mean gone. I understand where you’re coming from with the idea that getting anxiety under control is a necessary step. But, obviously you’re treatment center wasn’t taking the necessary approach to stop these thoughts that lead to actions. Don’t get me wrong in my experience all therapies work some of the time, but some take more time (and money of course). Obviously the treatments that don’t work don’t make an emotional connection In some way in order to push consistent action against the anxiety. My approach starts with getting the sufferer involved in an emotional way before any ‘treatment’ is even begun. All I know is with the growing numbers of mental health sufferers going up what our first line of treatment presenta isn’t working.

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